WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO GO THROUGH A LOVED ONE’S POSSESSIONS IF EVERYTHING THERE BROUGHT THEM JOY?
Have any of you had the experience of going through a parent or loved ones things after they die? I don’t mean to be morbid, but I have worked with so many people who have had this very unique experience.
And I will never forget the stories of overwhelm and of how much stuff got tossed directly into the garbage because it was so overwhelming to sort through and because so much of it was clearly not loved or utilized. In the end, often the boxes that remain get transferred to your home, to the basement, to the attic and they are still sitting there--because you don’t know what to do with them.
I recently had a conversation with a client of mine who was so very inspired about the work she was doing with me, decluttering her home, that she talked to everyone she new about it--it was really sweet. When she was in the midst of it, she didn’t want to do anything else--that’s what was going on for her, and so that’s what she talked to people about.
It happened that her father in law was in town visiting and she had some down time just with him. And she started talking to him about how thrilled she was about all the progress she was making. And her father in law, was really interested in the work she was doing. To be honest, that surprised me a little because I have these two stereotypes that clearly I need to break. First, I had pinned women for being most interested in the work of decluttering the home and secondly, in my experience, the older you get, the harder it can be to want to let go of your stuff--it doesn’t get any easier anyway. But clearly that is not universal by any means--this story illustrates that.
But their conversation as she relayed it to me spurred the thought:
How fascinating would it be if everyone pared down to only the possessions that brought them joy.
Wouldn’t it be amazing if all stuff that was left after your mother or your father passed away, was the stuff that brought them joy? You would learn so much about that person by going through their things. Instead of having your last experience with your loved ones things be exhausting, overwhelming, guilt producing, it could be joyful and eye opening. It could help you process the feeling of loss you experience.
But let’s backtrack a bit. What if before your mother or your grandmother died, she went through this process of surrounding herself only by only joyful possessions. When you visited her or when her grandkids or nieces or nephews visited, her treasures, the joyful possessions would be pridefully displayed, would have enough space around them to so that her guests would ask about where they come from. And they would hear her stories.
They would have a window into that oral history that we are losing in our society.
When our spaces are so very full, it is visually overwhelming. We can’t see through the clutter to what is important. What is important is covered up by all the rest of life’s stuff. And it doesn’t allow for any of those stories to come forth with a simple question.
What if your stuff was pared down to only the things that brought you joy. Not only would you feel more joyful every day, surrounded by those things, but your kids, your loved ones, your visitors, would see what you love, would see what is important to you. It would be clear.
Your possessions would inspire heartfelt conversations, and questions that would illuminate your authentic self.
The course that I run is called Clear Your Space. Clear Your Mind. I use:
- Feng Shui to set powerful intentions,
- Mindfulness to become aware of and work through the blocks, the hard stuff that stops you from really decluttering.
- And the KonMari method to declutter, to tidy, to organize.
That trifecta has amazing results.
You may have heard of Marie Kondo and her book the life-changing magic of tidying up. It’s a bestseller in Japan and the states. She says:
"Although I have spent this entire book talking about tidying, tidying is not actually necessary."
"You won't die if you house isn't tidy, and there are many people in the world who really don't care if they can't put their house in order. Such people, however, would never pick up this book. You, on the other hand, have been led by fate to read it (or follow my BLOG :)), and that means you probably have a strong desire to change your current situation, to reset your life, to improve your lifestyle, to gain happiness, to shine."
"Human beings can only truly cherish a limited number of things at one time. As I am both lazy and forgetful, I can't take proper care of too many things. That is why I want to cherish properly the things I love, and that is why I have insisted on tidying for so much of my life. I believe, however, that it is best to tidy up quickly and get it over with. Why? Because tidying is not the purpose of life."
"If you think that tidying is something that must be done every day, if you think it is something that you will need to do all your life, it is time to wake up.
"I swear to you that tidying can be done thoroughly and quickly, all in one go The only tasks that you will need to continue for the rest of your life are those of choosing what to keep and what to discard and of caring for the things that you decide to keep. You can put you house in order now, once and forever."
You may feel overwhelmed, exhausted, constantly distracted when you arrive home at the end of a long day--just like many of the people I work with. By the end of my 10 week, online course, life is more spacious, easeful, balanced. You have more time for your loved ones. What you love, what brings you joy, comes into focus. And that’s how you spend you time..
So don’t wait until you die, and someone has to go through your things, in order to put your life and your space in order. The results you will get: the clarity of thought, the time for what you love, are things you should enjoy right now in life--on a daily basis.
So sign up for a free strategy session with me today--there’s no catch. We’ll dive deep into the struggles you have in relation to your space. And if you’re a good fit, we can talk about how I can help you move forward.
I only have spots open THIS WEEK. So get yours today while they are still available.
I look forward to talking with you,